Meditations 3: It Is Not What You Do, It Is Who You Are Doing It.

Though success is a variable definition for each person and whatever they set out, it occurred to me that most people have the exact same goals, but less than a few people actually achieve it. 

Ive heard it in so many different filters, but it wasn't until recently I began to wonder, where does the separation of the two start?

The more thought that went into it, the more I remember these two distinct customers I had worked with in the same week that completely changed my perspective towards what success really was.

One monday, I worked with a customer that had 10 bed, 8 bath mansions, three vehicles, multiple ATVs, a big ass boat in the backyard and a vacation home in Virginia who was absolutely empty inside and had nothing to show. It was only more, more, and more external things that he thought could measure his success with and it was never enough. 

Meanwhile, two days later and less than twenty-miles away, I worked with a customer who he and his girlfriend had a nice little one bed, one bath apartment, a few plants outside and just enough to live, who was overwhelmingly joyful and even said himself, ¨As long as I have my girl and she has her plants, I have everything I could ever need.¨

…He was so self-assured of himself, and his happiness was overwhelmingly contagious. So much so that me, his girlfriend, and even their plants could feel it and couldn't help but smile.

In just two days I saw what I thought was success, and saw an empty shell of someone who could not find joy in his possessions and I saw someone who had little that was infinitely wealthy and abundant in life and in love.

The only difference was the person's views, and that wildly dictated how both became who they are on their journeys. 

One considered all his happiness to be the things that were external: big houses, cars, boats, more than one person could ever need. Yet, he could never have enough. These actions and wants were just purely ego.

One considered all his happiness to be all the things internal, like his love and certainty for himself, his girlfriend, and her love for plants, and was more focused on where he was at that very moment. Not attached to any outcome. He just wanted to experience life when it came his way. These actions were purely from love and gratitude.

Not to say there aren´t people who don´t have those things like Customer A can ́t feel like Customer B, but what was abundantly clear is that both people, despite different backgrounds and different lives, the biggest difference was who they became when they started their journey.

It's never about what is achieved. It is only about who you are during the entire process. I met someone who could have anything and was completely empty inside. I met someone who had little, and was the wealthiest and most abundant soul I ever met. And just two days apart.

Successful people and unsuccessful people can have the same goal, the only difference is who are they during the process of achievement? Whatever it is you want and whatever it is you´re seeking, that is all fine and completely up to you. Even as well as the comfort it brings you, but it's not going to change you for the better or help cure you from your pain. It's who you are during the process of becoming the person that achieves the result.

Who that person is, the version of you that is connected to what you´re after, is all reliant on the quality of the person you are in the process. Don´t let your soul die long before your body does.